Dare to be You!

Dare to be You!

Do you remember as kids when your buddies would double dare you to do something and you just had to prove to them that you could?  Now that we have grown older, do you find that you are more laid back and maybe do not have to prove anything?

At some point in life we’re all faced with a decision of whether to take that risk. Whether it’s leaving a miserable job, moving to a different position that stretches you, starting your own business, or even taking on a hard assignment, greatness requires risk!

Whether you succeed or fail, the act of taking a risk will strengthen you and give you faith in yourself as well as the confidence to do even more. I often wonder maybe if we’re meant to do things that scare us so we can build greatness in ourselves.

When you take the path of shyness and fear, your destiny is to wonder, years later, what might have been. I say to go for it! The cost may be great but the reward may be bigger. My mother always told me to get inspired and take the chance you need today.

I see that we do lose confidence as we grow older, maybe because as we grow older we gain more experience. It is natural that we have bad experiences which affect our confidence. I often see that people are not strong enough to take the good out of every bad thing that happens to us and use it to our advantage. By doing this, we grow more cautious about life, we remember discouraging things that happened to us in the past, or things people have said and we let it affect us.

I believe a healthy support network of friends and family who constantly encourage you instead of put you down. Be around people you can rely on, loyal, honest and trustworthy. I find they help you feel safe and less scrutinized by society, and they give you the leg up to start feeling good about yourself.

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In a blink of an eye…

In a blink of an eye…

Things Happen for a reason…really?

I feel that we take every day for granted…thinking that we are indestructible. It is so hard to try to figure out why things happen.  I always was a big believer that everything happens for a reason.  Maybe this is because nothing really bad has ever happened to me.

Last week I lost my best friend/co-worker who had been a tragic car accident. Sarah was just celebrating 10 years at work and was recently promoted feeling like she was on top of the world.  After working a hard week and celebrating her promotion; she was given the Friday off of work so she could travel to see her family for Thanksgiving.

I hugged her and wished her a wonderful trip and was sorry that I couldn’t join her. Sarah and her dog packed up the car and left early on a foggy morning excited to tell her family about the great news of her promotion.

Sarah only made it out of town 10 minutes and ended up being T-Boned and a 6 car pile-up accident. The fog was so bad that morning but knowing her; she felt indestructible. Sarah unfortunately did not make this crash. Sarah also was not responsible for this accident.

My 22 year old son; being a volunteer fireman, was on site and had to cut her out of her car. Her dog; injured as well, escaped from the car, and could not be found. It took the town all weekend to locate him and he had to be hospitalized.

The question I ask is “why bad things happen to wonderful people?” Sarah was probably one of the most wonderful people you would ever meet. I was raised to be very religious; I go to church every Sunday, but not this Sunday.

You need to appreciate everyone around you, every minute you breathe and to not complain about the little things. There are a lot of articles on line to help with the grievance process. I will probably go back to church eventually; but I am just not ready to yet.

https://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=youtube+dealing+with+grief&view=detail&mid=A6B859EDD4C9AA2721C3A6B859EDD4C9AA2721C3&FORM=VIRE

Sawing Logs….

Sawing Logs….

Ever fallen asleep at your desk or felt yourself nodding off on the highway? Is hitting the snooze button five times and drinking your weight in coffee still not enough to prop you up through your day? There are many reasons why we are not getting enough sleep, but one good reason could be lying in bed right next to you: a snoring spouse.

What do you do if you find yourself sharing a bed or a room with someone who snores? A study showed that partners of millions of snorers are kept awake for two hours each night, which equates to two years’ lost sleep over the course of an average marriage!

  • White noise is a type of neutral sound which covers all wavelengths. This can dim our perception of sounds like snoring, making it easier to sleep with the noise
  • A fan can work as well if you put it next to the bed and turn it on. Many people find that the noise made by a fan is effective in drowning out snoring
  • Earplugs are a classic but some say it’s not an effective option. Custom shaped earplugs can be more comfortable than store bought and many audiologists provide this service
  • There are many over-the-counter medications that you can take to knock you out when the time comes to battle your companion’s snoring. Do this only as a last resort, as your body quickly develops a tolerance.
  • Any partner who is disrupting the sleep of another should consider seeking some type of sleep therapy solution.
  • Maybe sleeping in another position may be the answer
  • Many partners of snorers find they sleep much better in a separate room. While some worry about a loss of intimacy from sleeping separately, many people find that they are able to be more intimate because they are less tired, and less grumpy from being kept up all night.

I have read up on this issue for the reason my husband actually is told he is the worse snorer around! We continue to struggle with a way to help him sleep better but only to find now that he does not sleep well because he is worried about me. Do you have any suggestions or experience that could help?

http://www.wikihow.com/Sleep-when-Someone-Is-Snoring

Helicopter Parent…no not me!

Helicopter Parent…no not me!

Helicopter parents attempt to “ensure their children are on a path to success by paving it for them”. My children were only 12 and 13 years old when I was rudely accused of being a Helicopter Mom.  I did not take this as an insult until later years when I became to understand the title a little bit better. I had assumed my children just thought I was too caring and was afraid to let them fail.  I certainly do not remember hearing this term or using this term when I was a child.

Reading articles on line I quickly became quite knowledgeable about this term and continued to discuss this with other parents and children.  “Helicopter Parents” is often used to define a group of parents who engage in the practice of over-parenting. These parents are accused of being obsessed with their children’s education, safety, extracurricular activities, and other aspects of their children’s lives.

Critics have scrutinized helicopter parents for overprotecting their children and for failing to instill them with a sense of independence and a can-do attitude. Helicopter parents are also accused of over-programming their children and not allowing them free time to play and explore on their own. Helicopter parents defend their parenting practices, stating that they are only looking out for their children’s best interests. These parents also feel they are proud to be so involved in their children’s life.

Upon reading many articles I decided to take a quiz to see if I was classified as one of these parents. http://www.csmonitor.com/The-Culture/Family/2012/0419/Are-you-a-Helicopter-Parent-Take-our-quiz/When-your-baby-drops-a-cookie-on-the-floor-you  To my surprise, I was indeed a helicopter parent and truly believed it was in the best interest for my children.

My children are now 20 and 21 years old and I feel I have completed a wonderful job raising them as a single parent. I was very overprotective and did not want my children to fail or to make the same mistakes that I had in the past. I do believe that being overprotective may have let my children grow to be adults without making many mistakes, or failing or experiencing different things on their own.  Now that they are adults and do not live with me, they depend on my discussions, advise and well as continue to do things as I taught them, not venturing out to experience something new.

Why is this topic much more popular today compared to when I was growing up? At a young age my brother and I would be across town on our bikes, at the park, playing in the forest, and our parents did not keep track or worry that we were gone all day and without cell phone communication. In school if I was not getting good marks, my parents did not blame the teachers, or if I didn’t make the sports team, they didn’t hold them responsible.

From my readings I have found that it is likely that helicopter parents have been around since the beginning of parenting, but the practice of over-parenting came into its own sometime during the 1990’s. It was around that time that parents were bombarded with news stories about child abductions, academic competition, and competition in a global economy. Naturally, these stories would scare parents and certainly want to protect their children from all of the dangers in the world. But these following video’s certainly make you wonder what you are doing to your children’s future!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6HhN6IlYD2M  Dec 30, 2014 – Uploaded by kha mohd A funny video about Helicopter Parents by one of our talented students … Helicopter Parents

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=crfYRhHehEM Helicopter Parenting Dr Justin Coulson

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bq94ga_110s  Omg this is so funny an interview that makes fun of Helicopter a Mom Helicopter Mom InterviewJoe Turner

 

 

SOCIAL MEDIA…IS IT SOME KIND OF ADDICTION?

SOCIAL MEDIA…IS IT SOME KIND OF ADDICTION?

Social Media allows us to keep in touch with old friends, post favorite photos or jokes, interact or collaborate with many people and possible build your self-esteem?  Do you count how many friends you have on Facebook or get excited when someone likes your photo you posted or status you shared? Texting and status updates allow us to be more involved in the lives of others than before. Social Media also opens the door to many potential problems such as inappropriate posts, wasting time, cyber bullying and even the equivalent to opening up your home to strangers.

There are so many articles about the risk to children using social media, but every day I view adults that are falling into the same risk category. How many of you take your smart phones to bed, or sneak on during work time or even obsess with other people’s post? I often get upset when I am trying to reach my children and they are not answering me back. Never, have I seen my children put their phone away or too busy not to notice they have a new message.  I must admit that I am definitely addicted to my smart phone.  I use my phone for every part of my personal and business life and I would be lost without it.  Not only children but many adults also post they have bought a new toy or vehicle, or they are away on vacation, or even posting inappropriate photos of your friends on Facebook, inviting disaster.

I think not only children but adults need to be reminded about the serious threats that social media can cause personally and to their professional future. I enjoyed reading this article and shared it with my children on future risks to their professional future.  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kim-garst/social-media_b_3431394.html  We often criticize our children but do not realize we may be falling into the same category?  Marketers are certainly benefiting from our use with Social Media. I have read a good article on being addictive to social media, please read when you have time. http://www.cmswire.com/cms/customer-experience/why-social-media-is-so-addictive-and-why-marketers-should-care-022276.php

I feel that our emotional attraction appears to be tied to having an audience more than connecting socially. Have you analyzed if you are addicted to Social Media?

Adopt or Rescue?

Adopt or Rescue? By Kelly Rintoul

Are you thinking of welcoming a new dog as a family member? If so, one of the first decisions to make is whether you’d like to adopt a puppy or rescue an older dog.

There really is nothing quite as adorable and exciting as welcoming a puppy. Cute, cuddly and full of affection, many people fall in love at first site. If you adopt a puppy, expect to spend a lot of time with them during their first year of life. You’ll need to care for their every need, teach them how to behave and show them where to spend their time. It is sad to hear of people not wanting to keep the dog after it is no longer a puppy and in that cuddly stage.

Have you thought of rescuing an adult dog? This can also be a delight, too. If you adopt an adult dog, you’ll skip the awkward and destructive puppy developmental stages, like teething and potty training. Depending on their history and whether they’ve been trained, you may not need to send them to basic obedience class or housetrain them. Sometimes it may be hard to retrain an adult dog, as well as have to deal with history of a possible abuse or miss treated dog. Having young children, I would not want to take any chances. I would have to choose a dog that had no past abuse or issues unfortunately.

Both decisions are a major commitment and you really need to give it 100% of your time and attention. I have heard many people have pro’s and con’s of both discussions. Myself, I would certainly fall in love with an adult dog if it was well trained but having a puppy and teaching and training it would be my first discussion. I understand there are a lot of dogs out there that need homes. I do believe people should be more responsible by getting their dogs fixed to avoid unexpected pregnancies.