The Negative Impact Social Media Has On Young Men

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Do You Think Social Media Is Pressuring You?

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Social media affects young men as much as it affects young women. Yes, this is true. Men of this generation have been taught from the day that they were born to show no emotion, reaction, etc. to anything that may negatively affect them. Basically, toughen up, guys! Everything from advertising the ideal male with broad shoulders, big muscles, and of course a six-pack to making yourself to show off whatever you can to prove you’re just as good as that multi-millionaire male. This is pressuring to men in general.

Body Image –

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Your friend is quite built, he gets much attention from whomever he desires the attention from. Effortless, it almost seems. You, on the other hand, are struggling to lose weight to, well AT LEAST be skinny. Good enough, isn’t it? No, you want to lose weight first, then you want to workout six days a week, four hours a day, and be one of the most muscular men in your city. While you think it through, it seems too easy. But to put the effort into beginning this journey, it doesn’t add up. You’re still upset over the fact that certain guys have these perfect bodies, and they look so effortlessly more attractive than you. So, you give up. Your confidence goes down even more than it already is, you stay miserable scrolling through these posts of the fittest men in the world. They seem so perfect. Just scrolling through posts and shared images can decrease a man’s confidence. Social media is very pressuring to even the most built men in the world, they all want to be the best. They were raised to have this mindset. That just adds more pressure to one’s self-worth.

Popularity –

Many men using social media feel pressured to be very popular. Popularity = confidence, attention, success. This is what many men desire to have. Having more comments, likes, and shares from your post than someone else does make you feel more successful and further in life. If you have popularity you’re obviously more important than someone who has less popularity than you. WRONG, it may be true in this social media fantasy many people strive to have, but at the end of the day are you benefiting from all this effort into pushing your popularity? In your saddest moments do you think your followers are going to be by your side during this experience, NO. People seem to post their happiest moments on social media because that is what people want to see. No one wants to see someone posting about their mental health, because our mental health doesn’t exist on social media. Men must always be happy on social media because being popular means you’re living your best life, right? WRONG. It does seem that way when you only share your happiest moments, but no one can be happy 24/7 because of the popularity they have on social media. It all fades away at the end of the night. Popularity may make a man feel more happy because of all the comments and likes, but it does hurt to know you aren’t truly expressing yourself on social media, you’re just following the trend.

Success –

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Success to a man feels like with this success you can do whatever and get whatever as long as you have a story to back it up. Flashing your $15,000 Rolex must make you feel more successful. After all, money = all the ladies and men you can desire… Sadly, there are people out there that will go for a more successful man just for all the stuff he can offer that your average five-days-a-week 9-5 man cannot. Men that have more success feel they can get whatever they want because of their success. Success = less stress? Maybe, but not everyone is THAT successful and flashy. Men feel worthless compared to the really rich, flashy men on social media. Men feel pressured to put on this successful persona of their life and may exaggerate it a bit just for social media and looking more successful than others. Men do feel more pressured to be flashy than other men when wanting to attract someone. Sometimes these people that are deeply affected by social media forget what a real conversation is like because talking about their own success teaches them to only talk about themselves. Men are pressured to be seen as more successful than they actually are.

Hopefully, this article explains some points on why social media negatively affects men just as much as it affects women. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

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What Is A TikTok?

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We All Been There (or at least now,) What Is A TikTok?

You aren’t new to social media but your friends want to make a TikTok, or maybe you’re just trying to catch up on the new slang and/or news. Of course, when everyone first heard of TikTok they automatically thought of the time and/or the clock. Well, hate to break it to you but TikTok is a video streaming application that you can download on either iPhone or Samsung/Android, you tried. TikTok is the new Musical.ly and/or Vine. If you don’t know what those applications are, well they’re exactly like TikTok. Still confused? Good, I’m not done yet. Keep reading.

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The Purpose Of TikTok

TikTok is an application to share videos. People share videos from all around the world. People may post singing/rapping covers, dancing videos, lip-syncing, comedy-like videos, vacation videos, etc. The list goes on and on. The most popular uploaded category is humor. TikTok is widely known for humorous videos that have been shared.

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Is TikTok Only Used By Teenagers?

No. TikTok is very diverse when it comes to anything. You could be sixty years old and be the most viewed user on that app. You could be three weeks old and be famous only because you smiled at the camera. Age does not affect your videos nor does effort, that baby is more known than you.

How To Create A TikTok

There are many ways you can create a TikTok. There are sounds/recordings already uploaded onto the application that you can use for your videos or you can create your own sound. You can create a TikTok within minutes. Got a weird talent or some kind of talent you want to share with the world? Share it! If you would like a more detailed way of creating a TikTok here is a great video that teaches you how:

Still Confused?

You still don’t understand what TikTok is? Here are a few links to get you started!

TikTok Official Pages:

Click Here To Download TikTok On Mobile Device

C0M0011 Am I Antisocial Or Just Not A People Person?

Knowing The Difference Before Self Diagnosing

LET’S BE HONEST, you are probably reading this because you want to know why you avoid social interactions. You do not want to be one of those people that self diagnose but you are confused with yourself as to why you don’t like being around people. Let’s break this down. For starters, many people confuse antisocial personality disorder with not being a “people person.” When people hear the word “anti” they assume it means the opposite of whatever it may be, and this is not the case. By the time you’re done reading this, you’ll have a better assumption of whether or not you have ASPD (antisocial personality disorder).

Before we get started let’s define ASPD and not being a “people person.” There is a big difference between having APSD and not being a “people person.” For one, ASPD is a mental condition where the person will steady avoid social interactions with other people and tend to be a “bully” to others. For people with ASPD, being a “bully” consists of being disrespectful to people, knowing how to manipulate others for personal pleasure and gain, lacking empathy for people, and being very egoistic of oneself and/or superiority of oneself. Many people may refer to people with ASPD as sociopaths.

For someone who isn’t a “people person”, you don’t have the same mentality as someone who has ASPD (or maybe you can be a rude person if you share SOME characteristics of someone with ASPD). Not being a “people person” means you tend not to engage in many conversations, you rather not make new relationships and friendships, and you would rather be by yourself than to be with others. In all reality not being a “people person” just means you’re more independent and rather spend time with yourself rather than putting your time into other people.

If you are still concerned as to which category you fall under please contact your doctor to be professionally examined.

Resources: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/antisocial-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20353928 annoyances_n_5352330.html https://metro.co.uk/2015/09/02/14-signs-youre-not-a-people-person-2-5365632/

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