WE LOSE PRECIOUS MOMENTS
Who else sees their kid doing something cute, rewarding, funny,
entertaining or sometimes not so safe and the first thing we do is grab our
phone for a photo to post instead of high-fiving, kissing or running to the
rescue or just simply being present. In
that moment, we lose out on something special, those intimate moments with only
you and your child, no sharing or likes by anyone on the outside
WE DOUBT OURSELVES
As a mom, it’s pretty much guaranteed that you’ll run into THAT
mom who is always bragging about her child and all their fantastic
accomplishments. Thanks to social media,
you don’t have to leave your home to be bombarded with this information. It’s all laid out for you in a beautiful
timeline with pictures included of the very best of everyone’s children. Parents react with likes and comments, but
many parents compare their parenting style on what they see online.
You see Brenda has happy smiling kids at the Carnival this
weekend, Nancy has taken her kids out for ice cream, Victoria’s son just won a
race, Mark is cooking a nice healthy dinner for his kids. All the while you and your kids are home this
weekend eating take-out and staying in.
You doubt yourself, you think “should I be doing all those things
with my kids this weekend?”
“Am I doing enough?”
When you look at social media, parents aren’t showing the good,
the bad and the ugly. They are showing
the glossed over versions of their lives.
It leads us to believe that everyone is doing better than us and creates
WE SPEND WAY TOO MUCH TIME DISTRACTED
I catch myself often scrolling through social media when my kids
are trying to talk to me, and I have to make an effort to put my phone down
consciously. If you were to honestly
write down every time you picked up your phone to indulge in your social media
feeds, I think you might be surprised how often you do it. Social Media will suck more time than you
My daughters just recently had their dance recital, and my
13-year-old daughter asked me how she did, and of course, I said she was
terrific. She replied with how would you
know, you were looking through your phone videotaping it and not actually
watching. That was a blow to the gut, I
was watching, but in my daughters’ eyes, I was not present at the moment. Ask
your kids if they think you are a distracted parent.
I’m not saying we should abandon all things social media. Just
set limits for yourself like you would your child. Kids grow too fast, we need to unplug and
WE ENCITE EYE-ROLLING
We are all proud of our kids because they are fantastic, of
course, but some parents take that to the extreme with bragging. I know that I have rolled my eyes at many
parent’s updates. My personal favourite
is the “Look what Santa brought” posts that show a disgusting amount
of perfectly wrapped gifts waiting under the Christmas tree. This says to me- look how much money I have
and look at what a great parent I am because of it. Puulleesssee.
WE CREATE FAKE MOMENTS
Okay, I admit I am guilty of this. My kids do something cute, and I think, that
would have been an excellent picture. So
I ask them to do it again, but wait the background is messy we should do it
over here, you were blinking let’s try it again. CHHEESSEEE. By the end of it, my kids are rolling their
eyes at me with frustration.
Just snap pictures and have fun with it, you take the pleasure
out of it if everything is staged. Your
children will thank you for it. Also, I
do think that as our children grow and understand what social media is, you
should ask them permission before posting any pictures. My 17-year-old son asked me years ago to stop
posting pictures of him, and I have stopped unless I ask him permission first.
LIKES, SHARES, COMMENTS – WHO CARES
If you disappeared from social media tomorrow, would that make
you any less of a good parent? In fact, would it make us feel better about ourselves
and our parenting skills? Who cares what
Brenda is doing with her kids this weekend.
Focus on what you are doing with your kids this weekend. We should take a step back and think of the effect
social media has on us as parents and the effect it has on our children through