Why I love BatDad

Husband, father, part-time Batman – what’s not to love?

Once you watch a video, you’ll love the goofiness of it all.  Each video is short, but the silly scenarios he comes up with have you laughing.  The candid retorts of the kids may cause your cheeks to hurt from smiling so much.

Mostly, I love to watch his creativity.  Is there anything more entertaining than seeing someone live their passion? It’s not the same thing every video.  Each video revolves around a theme, but they are all uniquely funny.  It gives credit to the idea taught to us a few weeks ago about personal branding.  Video after video, he is his fun-loving self and makes no apologies about his wacky shenanigans.

What really is great about these short videos is that they will be there for him and his wife to look back on in years to come, but even better is that the kids will have this, too and that is heart-warming.

Keep on keepin’ on Batdad!


Yeah, I’m a trekker, what about it?

This past week, I was able to visit the Telus Spark Centre in Calgary, Alberta where they were hosting a Star Trek event called, “The Starfleet Academy Experience”.  For someone who has been a Star Trek fan since they were in elementary school, this was nerd heaven.

For quite some time, and largely today, by the general public, Star Trek fans are stereotyped as losers who are socially awkward.   As a youth, I did not reveal this interest but to my closest friends for fear of ridicule, and still as an adult, have the same hang up.

The negative perception gave me pause before posting my experience and photos on my social media account.  I ended up tweeting to Patrick Stewart and added some pictures to Facebook.  I was surprised at how many Star Trek fans I had in my friends list.

Even if it’s not a hidden affiliation in a television program, but something more serious, like mental illness, I love social media and the internet for the simple fact that you can feel less alone.

Live long and prosper.

Ellen Campbell

That thing on tv? That’s me!

There is this interpersonal phenomenon that I see happen at work and after reading the 1997 Fast Company article, The Brand Called You, I wonder if anyone else thinks that it’s about personal branding, too.

Picture this: One co-worker, in their downtime, is talking with another co-worker. Small talk, but someone brings up the topic of television shows (and by that, I include Netflix programs). Emphatically, one asks, “Do you watch *insert show name here*?” Now, the conversation can go one of two ways; one is where the person replies “yes” and then you see the light in the inquirer’s face light up and they explode with questions and comments, and the other is where the person replies “no” and you see the light in their eyes dim.

The first question I beg to ask is why television shows carry so much weight to an individual? Yes, I know that there are programs that are emotionally impactful, like Blackfish, but if your co-worker didn’t catch the latest episode of The Big Bang Theory, it shouldn’t cause disappointment.

The second question I wish to ask is why finding someone else who likes the same program so important? I understand that it’s a topic that you can enjoy with another person, if you are out of things to talk about, or an ice-breaker with someone new. To be deflated when someone doesn’t watch just doesn’t seem like an appropriate response.

I theorize that television programs are used as personal branding within our personal lives. Have they become socially acceptable ways of branding ourselves? Branding ourselves on someone else’s creation granted, but we find something we can get behind, and stand for something.

If I like Family Guy, does that mean I brand myself as crude humour fan?

If I like Game of Thrones, does that mean I stand up for the underdog?

If I claim I have never watched Batman Returns, does it mean I don’t have a dark side?

Tell me if I’m reading too much into other people, or if there’s an ounce of truth here. I’d love to hear from other people and quit the dialogue in my own head!

Ellen Campbell

The other moms at your “Mommy-and-Me” class are lying.

My new mothers,

Things are not always as they seem. You know that stunning picture of your high school friend that she recently posted on Facebook? 30 minutes before she posted it, she was crying. You know that Instagram post your neighbourhood friend put up of her and her daughter cuddling in bed? What you didn’t see is that she cropped out the messiest apartment on the block. Social media profiles give mothers the wrong expectation of what parenthood is going to be or is like, which is something that has taken me 11 years to figure out. But, what I’m more passionate about is how mothers put on this same false display face-to-face with each other.

Why I care so much is because being dishonest with each other about how hard new motherhood is isolates and further perpetuates poor esteem and confidence. Of course, in the worst of circumstances, can add fuel to the postpartum depression fire.

Let’s just get this out of the way with – You are doing a great job and there are some realities we need to clear up:

You will not know what you are doing instinctively.  You may hear some older people say, “You’ll just know once the baby gets here”. I call bull! You wont know how to breastfeed and you wont know what sleep training is or how to do it, for example. Do not feel ashamed that you have to buy a book or WikiHow anything!

Your friend’s online posts are deceiving. People work hard at creating a larger-than-life image, but work harder at hiding what they don’t want you to see. There is another side, so simply enjoy the post or photo for a fleeting moment.

You will struggle with body image issues. After you give birth, you would think that everything would go back to normal. Not so. You will likely be disappointed, and frustrated.   Your “new normal” will take months and months of getting used to, and accepting. Of course, some women will hit the gym right away, but this is not everyone, and you should not beat yourself up for it.

 The relationship with your husband will become strained. The lack of sleep and the emotions you are feeling, the absence of your old life in combination with the new responsibility you face will create interpersonal tension with your spouse. There’s no getting around it. You may even plan dates to try and keep the connection going, but you’ll most likely think about your baby at home. I hate to bring it up to be a downer, but please know that this is normal and you can recover from this hiccough.

 You will have to let go of expectations. In the 9 months of prep time you had to think about how life might be with your new baby, you thought about many topics. Like, if you are going to breastfeed, what kind of formula is the best, all the toys are to be BPA-free, and so on. I don’t mean to be patronizing, but things will not go as you planned. You’ve likely heard this before, but I only bring it up again to internalize this for you. Does it suck that you had to compromise? Of course, but we all did it.

The cute cherub baby that you see is the exception, not the rule. On the Internet, and in Disney movies, this is how babies are presented. They certainly can be that way, but expectations should be that they are messy, cranky and in constant need for you to be at their side. 

The emotional side of motherhood is the hardest part. The lack of sleep, lack of freedom, exhaustion, failed personal expectations and the mental pressures is the dragon you have to slay in the first 6 months (or more).

 Certainly, I am aware that there are sweet moments within new motherhood. Moments that you will treasure the rest of your life. I apologize to the mothers who aren’t experiencing this – if you aren’t struggling with any or some of this – all the power to you! I am well aware that these have been my experiences, but find a common thread in the women I talk to.

But, for those of you who are experiencing these things, pretending you aren’t does a disservice to you and other mothers. Do you see how this creates the culture of loneliness within our social circle? I would encourage you to be painfully honest when asked about your new life. I did not have family close by when I had my first born, and could have found solace in knowing I was not alone. I didn’t want to hear how your child is the best thing that ever happened to you (even if that was the truth). What I wanted was to hear how your house is a mess and you can never seem to keep it tidy, or how you rarely have dinners made for your husband at night. What I wanted was honesty and to see myself in you. Did you have to lock yourself in your walk-in closet in order to have a 4 minute conversation on the phone? Say it outloud!  Look at the picture I included of my daughter.  The bed is not made because she threw up on it, just got out of the bath, and she’s harassing the cat!  I didn’t have it all together although that was the expectation I had for myself.

As much as this has been my experience, I would still like to know I am not alone. I keep my heart open to friends who have had babies recently, since I know how much value there is in that. I encourage you to use compassion with other mothers, and show them they are not alone. Tell me what other things about new motherhood you had to deal with or currently wrestle with that you never expected? Let’s help the new moms out there feel encouraged and supported.

With an open heart,

Ellen Campbell