I’ve started to believe that seeing something as a regret is the only thing to regret, and that sometimes what we call “mistakes” are simply lessons learned the hard way and a new awareness, formed into understanding the self. At least this has been my experience, and why growing up these lessons have helped me better understand.
This process started when I was young and has helped me throughout life make sense of many situations outside my own understanding. It’s also given me a yearning to try, learn and yes sometimes fail but never give up. One thing making mistakes and constantly learned has instilled in me is a sense of resiliency and that has been a tremendous part of what has helped me carry on, along with the help of my family. In fact the harder the lessons the more resilient I’ve become, determined as ever to prove myself against my own setbacks. It is these experiences that helped to shape who I am today with no regrets.
Everyday I’ve learned something new and have discovered something new about myself or the situation to understand better. It’s also helped make my own story interesting contributed to my growth and given me insights that dwelling on these experiences might not have allowed me to do. All those speed bumps and detours may have temporarily been regrets but now as I look back they’ve become lessons, interesting stories, wisdom and proof that I’ve tried many times, all contributing to my story and the message I want to share.
I came across my personal brand through thinking about what I didn’t want it to be. Which was another blog that takes my diagnosis Asperger’s Syndrome and make it all about being a cause or how it’s challenged me. I wanted to focus more on what has helped me cope better; and use my experiences as a way to share what I’ve learned from them to help others.
Transitioning to this place from my original blog which was general and used a pseudo-name has been a big step and leap of faith but one I’m glad to take. Doing so helped bring a greater focus to my writing and specify my niche, that has allowed me to bring forth my own personal awareness and how I’ve gained insights from those experiences that have added to what my blog may have been lacking before. It also has given me the courage to share and be more open with what I share.
I strive for it to be as authentic and honest as possible, writing from a place of compassion towards myself and others, understanding and learning with perhaps a little educating. If it doesn’t feel right then I don’t write on it and work to change it because this is the only way I know how to write and be- authentically and honestly- me. Sharing what “Life on the Spectrum” is like for me has been a wonderful learning experience and journey into embracing what makes me unique, how that’s growing into my personal brand and allowed me to share that with others, that’s just begun but I’m eager to see where everything goes from here.
Learning, sharing and growing as Kylie, blogger of Life on the Spectrum- embracing Aspergers!