If 93% of communication in non-verbal, how are our children developing these skills that are essential for adulthood? Conversations have shifted from face-to-face to through-the-screen and shortened versions of words of what would be visual responses are everyday language (ya u can lol @ me). In my opinion, this is decreasing the quality of interpersonal relationships, some people are even losing interest in meeting people in person preferring to stay at home on social media.
Debatable I know….
Two research studies (Mehrabian & Wiener, 1967 and Mehrabian & Ferris, 1967) concluded that 93% of communication is non-verbal; 55% body language, 38% tone of voice and the remaining 7% is the actual words spoken.
A Common Site
We have all seen it, we’re out for dinner or at a get-together (although that seems like so many moons ago) and people are looking at their phones. They are not truly engaging or interacting with the actual human beings in front of them. Is this a display of complete uninterest or just socially acceptable now?
The repercussions are misunderstandings and miscommunications and the people closest to each other are growing farther apart. One article I read even mentioned people become bored with real, in person conversations. How do you learn real life social etiquette this way? Are our social media accounts even a true representation of who we are?
I was always taught the importance in what your body language says about you, eye contact conveys confidence, shifting your focus quickly can indicate insecurity or anxiety and crossing your arms shows disinterest or disagreement. How can you understand and feel the actual affect of what you said from a written response?
Am I Wrong to Worry?
I realize there are many positives to social media especially for people who do suffer with often debilitating social anxiety, mental health concerns and panic disorders. It creates an opportunity to connect with people from around the globe, people who share the same interests and ideas, and creating a support system with others who may be suffering with similar issues. I’m sure many of our children would have gone stir crazy without interaction with their friends during the current pandemic (speaking from experience).
Is it wrong to worry about real-life communication in future generations? Do you think social media is harming this? Or are we as parents, leaders and mentors responsible for instilling these values? I’ll ask my teenage daughter when she texts me from her room to ask what time dinner is and I respond with “idk”.
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