Just recently I became a mom for the first time. I couldn’t wait to share pictures of our beautiful baby girl, but then I thought; I’m not quite ready to share her just yet. Now that she’s three months, I share more pictures of her on Facebook due to the simple fact that our family is in B.C. and it’s just easier than texting everyone. However, we’ve ensured that we turned the share feature off on any photos of her so that we can control the audience. We do have family that will only share pictures on special occasions, but they also have all their family members close, allowing them to see the little ones in person much more frequently.
But, I’ve seen many occurances in public where the child will do something for the first time and the parents rush to grab their phones and decide if it’s good enough to post. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve certainly taken pictures but that doesn’t mean they need to go on social media. You can look through my phone and see thirty pictures that are basically the same. New mom!
There’s always that one parent that will bombard you with bragging; little Johnny got an A in science, ate all his veggies, and scored the winning goal during his hockey tournament. But thanks to social media, you don’t need to hit up the playground to get all this information. Nope, it’s all right there on social media while you’re taking a personality quiz. You know all about little Johnny whether you want to or not. You see the comments and reactions, and a little competition starts in your mind. Some parents start to compare, and even question their own parenting style. Why though? We’re only seeing what they’re posting on social media. What we aren’t seeing is that Johnny failed math, and had to sit at the table for hours to finish those veggies.
A national poll from the University of Michigan Children’s hospital found that 75% of parents overshare. They say “sharenting” ranged from inappropriate pictures to details regarding where their child might be at a certain time. It also mentions that parents may create an online identity for their child just based on what has been shared. Many parents don’t think they overshare, but if you were to ask a friend or family member would they agree? Nothing sadly seems to be off limits as to what people will share; not all of it good! A friend of mine was so excited when her son was potty training, that she felt she needed to share the details in the potty on facebook. Needless to say, I really didn’t need or want to see that. #Gross.
Social media can be a great way to reach out to other parents for advice from how to get baby to sleep, to simply “my kid ate cake for breakfast. Does this make me a bad dad?”. Most of the times, the responses to these questions are positive; and then you get that one. You know the one I’m talking about; the negative Nelly who according to them has the PERFECT child, and would never let their child do any of things being mentioned. Despite all the positive feedback that you’ve gotten, that one negative comment can make you feel like you need to rush to chapters and pick up the latest parenting how to book. I was raised with the mindset of “if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything” and I believe that even with social media.
I was born long before social media was really even a thought, so I was forced to play and socialize. My mom would put on my favourite Disney movie (was definitely Sleeping Beauty) just to get things done around the house. No harm no foul, but it was not a replacement tool for parenting. I understand even now with a little one that sometimes you go into survival mode just for 5 minutes of quiet, but so often anymore I see a little one with an Ipad to their face and the parent with a phone. Now I’m not saying this is a bad thing the odd time, but how often does that happen? Has social media become a babysitter for some?
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