COM0011 -Does Social Media Affect Our Relationships?

Photo by Pixabay from Pexels

Social media is right at the tip of our fingers. Any desire, thought, feeling, want or craving can be explored with just the click of a button. There is no work involved which is what makes it intriguing and highly addicting, but as social media advances does it start to affect the way that we communicate with our loved ones? Has it impacted our connection with others because we may no longer show affection through affirmations because it is easy to express our love through a couple emoji’s through text message? Most importantly, is it affecting our relationships? Are we not getting or giving enough to our loved ones because we are buried in our phones keeping up with the latest trends and instagram posts? I know it may seem like I am asking so many questions but I want you to think about the questions I’ve asked and really take a step back for a moment and think them through.

Social media is advancing quicker then we can keep up and offering more and more to its users to keep the appeal going. As it advances, is it taking time away from our loved ones? If the answer is no, then I will rephrase it and ask you, is social media capable of affecting our relationships? I’m curious if any of you have experienced this. I am the type of person that likes to communicate in person, verbally, and not through my cellphone because it makes me feel more connected to the person. I need to look the person in the eye and really pour my heart, feelings and thoughts out there as I find I don’t get the same if I was doing it through text or on the phone.

Do you find that you connect best with someone through: 

A. The phone

B. Through text

C. In person

Please feel free to comment a, b, or c in the comments section so I can get an idea as to how you best connect with someone.

Social media is a world that is inviting and exciting. It is a distraction to say the least and an escape from reality at times. I am guilty of spending time with my boyfriend and getting caught up on my phone scrolling through Instagram, trying to multi-task by scrolling through photos all awhile having a conversation with him about his day. It is something that I am trying to be more conscious and aware of because I don’t want him to feel as though I am not interested in his day or what he has to say. Do any of you feel like you can relate to this? Again, please feel free to comment in the comments section if you can relate to this and feel comfortable sharing! I look forward to hearing what your thoughts are on this post and reading your views on the social media world affecting our relationships.

Do you feel like social media is taking over your relationship? If the answer is yes, its time to re-assess this matter and see how you can make changes!

How do you connect with your loved ones? Is it through a tweet, a text or a phone call? Share with us at #howdoyouconnectwithlovedones  

8 thoughts on “COM0011 -Does Social Media Affect Our Relationships?

  1. hi Kira, what a lovely blog, thanks for this! You are raising some very interesting and important questions.. at times, you made me smile, as I often am guilty of talking and texting or scrolling on FB too. Yes, I totally agree with you that social media is changing the way we interact with our loved ones. I do remember a time when there was no smart phones and FB nor emojis though, when to chat with someone, you just had to pick up the phone… I often recall this time, especially when I am conversing on social media with a good friend of mine, instead of us picking the phones and chatting.. you are right, it is so much more richer and engaging the conversation than texting or messaging. I feel, our communications and relationships have been robbed by social media and do try to be mindful of it and avoid whenever possible.
    Again, thanks for the lovely blog and for reminding us what is truly important in life!

    • Hello, Thank you so much for your comment. I am happy that I made you smile as well! It is great feedback to hear. Social media is definitely changing the way that we communicate with others. It makes it so easy to send a message, or comment on an instagram post as oppose to just seeing the person in person or picking up the phone and having a conversation. I try my best to be conscious of my social media usage because it is so easy to get caught up in the social media world. At times it feels like an escape from reality which is nice at times but I don’t ever want to forget the importance of family, friends and relationships, and seeing people that I love in person. It is something that I am trying to be mindful of each day but it is definitely hard for sure. I think of my parents time when they didn’t have all the advances that we did. It was a simpler time to say the least and I am hoping I can be more aware and present in the moment as oppose to being distracted from social media. It’s a work in progress for sure 🙂

      Thanks again,


  2. Hey Kira,

    What a well-written blog post! I often find myself wondering about whether social media has taken the “socializing” out of us. If used with limits, I believe social media keeps us connected to friends and family, although nothing beats an old-fashioned phone call to catch up with friends and family.

    • Hi Desiree,

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I really do believe, as you said, that we should limit ourselves from social media so that we don’t miss out on being present with our family and friends. I am definitely a phone call kind of women so I couldn’t agree more with you.

  3. Hi – Very thought provoking questions and comments, thanks for sharing. I’m a mom of 16 and 30 year olds and I do find a difference in communication skills between these age groups for sure. I find that the older children use social media for research and information first and texting if they cannot speak to us by phone. Our youngest uses social media all the time, asking when dinner is ready, while watching tv with us, multitasking all the time and not always focused on the hear and now. Adjustments for all are necessary, I understand its the way of the future but rules and boundaries have to be set to maintain relationships.

    • Hello,

      Rules and boundaries definitely need to be in place. The internet is such a big world with so much darkness so it is always important to monitor any young children on it because you just never know what they will stumble across. I believe social media is full of so much knowledge that is so readily available to us which is what makes it so enticing- however it can truly get the best of all of us at times.



  4. Hi Kira: It’s great question and to answer yours above, I feel I connect best in person, but secondly through the phone. I am absolutely guilty of sometimes doing the phone scroll while talking with my wife. Just last night at a campfire in fact, though we were trying to find out information about a 70’s artist to whom we were listening. It’s too easy to get distracted online and before you know it, you’re on an entirely different quest than the one on which you set out.
    I have often thought of my facebook “friends” in this regard. Out of 200 + there are only 6 or 7 that I ever make an effort to connect with in person. So what does that say really?

    The rest are really just acquaintances but certainly people that I life and occasionally see at group functions etc. Kinda of like an extended friend group but not a close one.

    I have recently vowed to keep in touch more so via the phone. At least hearing someone’s voice is more connection than text, but for that matter, FaceTime, Skype all those apps, make it possible to also SEE the person with whom one is connecting.

    And for very practical reasons too…the thub with which I text and swipe is getting a very swollen knuckle! Talk about repetitive stress injury eh?

    Thanks for the excellent discussion,

    • Hi Phyllis,

      Thank you so much for your response. I really enjoyed reading how you connect best with others. I think we are all guilty of being on our phone too much but at least we are aware of it! 🙂

      As much as I hate to admit this, my thumbs and fingers have hurt from scrolling through Instagram too much so I definitely agree with the repetitive stress injury LOL I tend to get headaches as well which is not good!!

      Thanks for sharing,


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.