Dating Apps and the Loss of Intimacy

Everyone I know has downloaded Tinder, an online dating app, at some point in time. It has become a rite of passage for teenagers graduating high school looking to experience love for the first time. However, those entering the dating game are quickly disillusioned and assimilated into the hookup culture.

For those who don’t know, a hookup culture is one that accepts and encourages casual sex encounters, without necessarily including commitment and emotional bonding. And apps, such as Grindr, Tinder and Bumble, make sex easily accessible, right at your fingertips. Sex is no longer seen an act of intimacy, but becomes an act of sexual liberation. It is not surprising that sociologists are sounding the alarm on an “intimacy crisis” because young people are moving forward in life confused about what it means to be intimate.

Dating apps have also created a shallow world where people only care about someone’s appearance because we are spoiled for choice. After all, how many people actually read someone’s profile before swiping either left or right?

It is exactly because we are spoiled for choice that we are unable to learn intimacy. Even when we meet someone with whom we click, something in the back of our mind is telling us that the next match could be more exciting and exquisite and beautiful. Because why would you settle for an Acura when your next match could be a Jaguar? And so we test drive and test drive and test drive until we’ve become jaded…

Do you think dating apps have changed the fabric of society? Let me know what you think in the comments below!

References:

Hookup Culture. Wikipedia.org. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hookup_culture. Consulted on June 16, 2019.

Image. https://www.breezejmu.org/opinion/hookup-culture-creates-confusion-blurs-relationship-lines/article_50a6a36e-a700-11e4-ad81-73b2df54b025.html Consulted on June 16, 2019

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4 thoughts on “Dating Apps and the Loss of Intimacy

  1. I totally agree with this, relationships have totally changed. From dating apps and other apps that allow “chat boxes” have created so much access to communicate to other people all the time, at the same time being able hide the conversations. I find trusting the other person in a relationship is difficult now as a result to all the options that are out there on dating apps.

  2. I think this is a really interesting topic to tackle, I can understand where you are coming from in the aspect of moving from relationship to relationship. But in my opinion its more about being able to find a right match easier and quicker than before, in my parents and grandparents generations a lot of people were just stuck with who was readily available to them and not for love or intimacy. In a way this is giving better access to those who don’t want to have to settle with someone.

  3. Are we talking about “dating” apps such as Grindr, Tinder and Bumble or dating apps such as eharmony and match.com? There is a huge difference between these apps from what I understand. Traditional dating apps such as eharmony and match are great for meeting new people that have the same interests, values and relationship goals that you may have but apps like Tinder are considered “hookup” apps not for traditional dating. To each his own, what’s right for you may not be what’s right for others.

  4. Rules and policies are not present within those platforms. The problem is that it is almost impossible to know if the information as well as the pictures given are accurate, true and up-to-date. I had my own experience meeting with someone for a job interview. After looking at the gentleman’s profile and picture, I knew in my mind who I was going to meet with. It has been a big surprise when I met with this person who did not look at all like his LinkedIn picture! Until there are some verification tools in place, I am not sure that what you see is what you get!

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