Keeping up with the Joneses has always been a problem in society. Your neighbour gets a new car, then you need a new car. Your friend buys a bigger house, then you need to buy a bigger house. But in the modern world of social media keeping up with the Joneses has taken on even more meaning.
As I scroll through my feeds on my social media accounts I am confronted with images and posts of everyone living idyllic lives, making me feel as though I don’t do enough with my life. I see posts of people going on camping trips, attending trendy events around town, and posting about their fitness accomplishments #JustAnotherMarathon. I can’t help but be overcome with this feeling like I’m not doing enough, like I’m not living my life.
I’m not alone in this. According to a German study cited in this article here one in three people feel worse after checking their social media profiles and seeing what their friends are doing, particularly if those friends posted vacation photos.
But then I ask myself, is what I see posted real? The video called “ What’s on your mind?”, which you can watch here, demonstrates how easy it is to fake it on social media, and how damaging it can be for your psyche.
So hopefully you just watched the video and are thinking, ‘no one really does that’. But apparently they do, according this article here, one in five young people lie on their social media accounts about their promotions, relationships and vacations. In fact, the article continues to describe the mental effects lying on social media can have. Studies have shown that lying on social media actually changes your memory of a certain event.
So is this a fake it til you make it situation? If your not really be happy with your life, you should go on social media and fake a happy life and then you can find real happiness? That might not be the best way forward. Since according to studies, that you can read about this article here, people who spend more time on social media per day overall feel more isolated than those who don’t. One of the reasons it states is isolation through envy, and feelings of exclusion as you see people out at fun events.
If I go back to my social media feeds, what I see is posts of my friends in loving relationships, or them studying for that big exam that is going to make their career. But what I don’t see is when the relationship hits a rough patch, or they don’t pass that exam. Unless we have a deep offline relationship I don’t get the chance to know their real lives. So I can’t help but wonder, is social media really helping us be more social? Or is it just making us afraid to be real, or make a mistake because it would tarnish our perfect profile?
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