Blended, today’s new reality.

blended family

A few weeks ago, when I started this class, I was asked to introduce myself. One of the first things I mentioned was that I am a mother of 6.

In fact, I am a mother to 6 children, mother of 5 and stepmom to 1.

Growing up, my mother wanted her girls to get an education, career and eventually by the age of 25 get married and have children.

By the age 25, 2 of my children where born, I was married and completing my BA in administration. A few years later, I went onto the job market and my third child was born. Fairy-tale accomplished …that is what I thought.

Like   Winston Groom wrote in the Forest Gump novel: “…life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re gonna get.”

14 years in to my marriage it ended.

My sons first comment to me about our divorce was: “it’s ok mom lots of kids are like me in class…I will have 2 homes, 2 bikes and twice the gifts” thank god for his positive attitude.

According to www.Statistica.com here the divorce rate in Canada from 2000-2017:

stats chart

Now with higher levels of divorce will also come, higher levels of blended families, single parent homes and even grand-parents becoming guardians.

In my case I met a young man who had a 2-year-old daughter, so my children then got a stepsister. A few years later we decided to continue the family and had 2 more children.

We now have my children, his children and our children. With blended families comes many ups and downs. Raising children of our own is a challenge but helping to raise someone else’s can be even harder.

Children must deal with visitation schedules, holiday sharing, constant traveling, sometimes fighting, etc.

I decided to do a bit of research online and found a great blogger Scary Mommy, 10 Things Nobody Tells You About Having A Blended Family. Some points in her blog were accurate and others not so much. I am set in my ways, I do get upset when he criticizes my kids but hey he does too.

This is sadly a bigger reality these days, life is not always what you had planned, and you need to adapt and make the best of it.

 

Where you part of a blended family or do you have one of your own?

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2 thoughts on “Blended, today’s new reality.

  1. My family is all my own, but we still have problems parenting, and troubles communicating. I think that it all really comes down to communication. This is really key to any relationship and parenting. Hubby and you have to be on the same page for parenting goals and then show that face to the kids. I actually learned a new technique lately called Active Listening from a Parenting Coach. I have found it to be extremely helpful with the kids and the hubby.
    Take Care,
    Kristina

  2. I am part of the divorce statistic but only had one child, I met a wonderful man that did not have any children and was never married. my daughter lucked out on a great father figure when he entered our lives. We searched the internet as my daughter was growing up for advice as to how to parent at certain things. My daughter is now in her twenties and I have to say from what I hear of other parents struggles, my child turned out just great.

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