Facebook Happiness is…Real?

Is it just me or are there a significant number of people on Facebook who seem a little too happy?  So I decided to explore this a little further and found this article titled,

“This is why you shouldn’t take people’s Facebook lives seriously”

The article also contains a link to a video that demonstrates what may happen when someone lives from “post to post”.


The article speaks to the fact that those individuals that post information about what many of us would describe as the “perfect life” are only posting what would appear attractive to the audience. The less attractive stuff, doesn’t get posted.  Which is interesting because the poster is making an assumption on behalf of the audience by selecting what they believe is attractive to their audience. Although logic dictates that there is no benefit in pretending in life as the truth will reveal itself yet many people still decide to show only part of the truth.  Now we obviously cannot control what aspects of people’s lives are posted on social media but we can control our reaction.  For all intents and purposes, if we removed the social media aspect from the equation, would the same result perpetuate itself?  I believe so.  “Hiding the skeletons” so to speak is nothing new.

CNBC published an article in 2017 titled “Using Facebook makes you feel depressed”.  Surely, that is not the intended purpose of any social media platform.  The article goes on to state: “Exposure to the carefully curated images from others’ lives leads to negative self-comparison, and the sheer quantity of social media interaction may detract from more meaningful real-life experiences,”.   We can all agree that social media has a place in our lives.   As I mentioned in my previous blog entry, this isn’t something that can be ignored.  If you have ever been in a long distance relationship, you will very quickly understand that there is no substitute for physical presence.  So here is my question for you the readers, has social media reduced the value of time spent cultivating real-life relationships? friendships? and/or experiences?

Interestingly enough, I work very closely with the whole social media arena here in the government and perhaps my heart has been hardened with the times but there are some instances where I have difficulty understanding the expected return on the emotional investment some people are making based on a “like” or a post.  I question why anyone would give someone else that kind of control.  Then it dawns on me…perhaps that is all they have and they just want someone to reach out.

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4 thoughts on “Facebook Happiness is…Real?

  1. Hi OMARELG,
    I really like your post, and the video you included made me stop and think. Personally, I think social media directly affects real-life relationships, as it takes us away from the present moment. Too often we see couples or groups at the restaurant, and people are on their phones, mindlessly scrolling through their feeds instead of engaging with the people around them. This whole concept of “fear of missing out” is very real. Thanks for sharing!

    • Hi Veronique,
      You’re welcome! I see the same thing when i go out…it’s a bit of a head-scratcher but to each there own i guess.

      thank you for your comment.

  2. I would actually say social media has had the opposite effect for me. I interact with different groups of friends, mainly through Facebook group chats, on a daily basis, but I find I prefer to interact with those people in-person. Sure, it’s a little more difficult to cultivate relationships in-person — where you can’t just throw a like or a quick, simple comment on something someone says or does — but I find those kinds of relationships to be more valuable and rewarding.

    Perhaps it’s just my opinion, but I find I get more out of meeting someone face-to-face than I do through a screen.

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