Do we really need to post online, people dying?

Social media can have somewhat of a dark side which I believe has become immoral and not in good taste. How many people are or have at one time or another posted about an accidental death on Facebook or on other sites. Posting a video on u-tube of a horrendous multi vehicle pile up where you know there are people’s lifes lost due to the accident.

This following link pertains to a man in Ohio that came upon an car accident, he did not assist the two people trapped inside the vehicle instead he opened the door leaned in to take a video then proceeded to the front of the car still filming. The law states it is not a crime to film when an individual is dying due to an accident, but you can be charged with entering a crime scene.

Lady Diana the Princess of Wales death on August 31, 1997 in Paris France was worldwide news and reached by billions of people. Photographers that were following her Mercedes arrived on the accident scene almost immediately. Some of them rushed to actually try and help the occupants of the mangled wreckage while other photographers took pictures. Seven paparazzi on the accident scene were taken into custody and arrested.

The following link is very graphic of the accident scene.

Photographers need to do their job when reporting the news, but it should be done with discretion and in good taste. With today’s texting and driving I understand making people aware of the possible consequences. But when people are fatally injured do we really need put it on social media?

Would you like to find graphic posts on Facebook or other social media about your neighbor, best friend or your immediate family death? This time in one person’s life should be kept private and with the up most respect, whether you are just a regular individual or celebratory.


Facebook link:   Are good morals and judgement still out there?


Twitter link:  Do people really look for fatal accidents on Social Media just for something to do?


2 thoughts on “Do we really need to post online, people dying?

  1. I absolutely agree with you that the circumstances you used in your examples are horrific. Not only did the individuals show a shocking and disgusting approach towards a families necessary time for grief and privacy but it goes beyond to what should be considered ethically, responsible “news”. The first one astounds me that the individuals first instinct wasn’t to offer first aid.

    There should be some boundaries for news and the images that are chosen to be shared. There should be also be a heirarchy of who is informed in the event of a death, and some yet to be established etiquette for social media mourning. However, I truly believe there is no “right way” to mourn amongst people. Being such an intimate experience and different from person to person, there are families that have benefitted from an online approach.

    The immoral situtations you describe seem to reflect the poor character of individuals or job requirements of news journalists (they do a job that most could not), and you bring up the point of not wanting to see graphic information about friends, neighbours and loved ones on facebook. I absolutely agree that if someone in my life died graphically, I would not want to see this but I’m just wondering if you have considered the advanages to using social media for mourning?

    Is there a place for social media in mourning, a process that involves the shared expression of sorrow versus grief, which is a multifaceted response to loss?

    “A growing number of researchers agree—the media psychologist Jocelyn DeGroot posits that social networks can help people make sense of death, and maintain a relationship with the deceased. However, there’s an important distinction between mourning, a behavior, and grief, an internal emotional experience. Social media may have opened space for public mourning, but etiquette for ensuring that outpouring supports the bereaved (or at the very least doesn’t make their situation more painful) has yet to develop.”

    My sister in law died at 38 of uterine cancer. Her facebook page still lives today and even though she has been dead for 7 years, we still come together as a family on Paula’s birthday, Christmas, and around the time of her passing to share memories and compassion with one another for our families loss. She left behind two amazing, beautiful children who also need those stories, memories and shared messages to know that their mother is lost to us but never forgotten.

    Yes, we could send cards, or letters, or pick up the phone, but social media provides a shared community experience amongst a group of friends and family that all had a close connection to Paula. There is a certain comfort in shared grief and social media provides our family a way to do this together in a way that no letters could.

    We have a responsibilty to be ethical in our communities and online. Social media is tool for communication and just because we can easily post information to be shared, doesn’t always mean that we should. We have the right to be forgotten just as much as we have the right to be remembered. We now live in a world where the lines of those rights have been completely lost even when we have attempted to set boundaries for them.

    I would love to know what you would propose we do to bring good morals and judgement to the social media experience? Do you feel that there is a place for sharing information about death online?

  2. Good afternoon..
    Thank you for your comments. We both agree there should be boundaries for images on social media. As for mourning / death of a loved one, everyone does it different because we are all individuals and react differently to different situations. We all grieve in our own way whether publicly or in private. Is there a place for social media in mourning, that would or could be a subject for a totally new blog.

    Good morals / respect are taught and experienced starting at a very young age. Good judgement is learned though out our lives sometimes we make the right decision sometimes we do not, but we should learn from our miss judgement’s in our lifetime.

    As for taking graphic pictures or video’s like my first example of the man from Ohio this should result with legal action against him and should not be tolerated. I believe his actions were in poor judgement and with no respect for the individuals involved.


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