As a person who has passed her half-century mark, I have found myself lately thinking about the concepts of life span, longevity, and possibly the lack thereof. Somewhat depressing? Even morbid? Kind of. But realistic. Indeed, these thoughts usually surface when something bad or sad happens, which it did – and which makes you think about how short life really is.
The recent deaths of a cousin in his early 60’s from cancer and a friend of a friend, otherwise lively, active and healthy as a horse who dropped dead of a heart attack at 57 – just a few short years older than myself – and even closer to the bone, a year younger than my better half – has prompted me to start reflecting.
Having realized that life is short, I figured that I need to start trying, in earnest, to make the most of it. But what is the most? What does that look like?” I came up with a list of four points:
- Do things that you haven’t done before – the Bucket List
- Do things that make you happy, that bring you joy.
- Do things with your loved ones. Make memories.
- What NOT to do re the above three points!
I will examine these four points over the next few blogs. Let’s start with the first item on the list.
The Bucket List
I had never really written a bucket list, other than having a few thoughts floating around in my head. I also saw the movie, laughed and cried along with Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson, but that is about it. So I thought I better consult the literature on how to write a bucket list. There is actual methodology and reams of information on this – who knew!
According to published author, behavioral investigator and author of the Ultimate Bucket List Guide , Vanessa Van Edwards, a Bucket List is: “a list of all the things you want to try, goals you want to achieve and life experiences you want to have before you die.”
Van Edwards believes that everyone should have a Bucket List or a “To Experience” list. Here’s why:
- Bucket lists make you stop and think what you actually want to experience in this lifetime.
- Bucket lists remind you that life is short and we should live it to its fullest.
- Bucket lists increase our happiness because they give us both hope and curiosity (2 essential ingredients for happiness)
She outlines 10 steps to get the job done, along with some great tips and inspiration on her own journey. Here is an excerpt:
Step 1: Dreamstorm
The first thing you can do to create your bucket list is to dreamstorm–this is a combination of dreaming and brainstorming. Take out a piece of paper or open a new document and set aside at least 15 minutes to put all of your ideas into writing. Here’s the key:
Remove all limits.
The most important part of dreamstorming is allowing your mind to be as free as possible. Step One is all about putting down every. single. idea. that pops into your head. It’s not crazy, it’s not impossible, it’s not silly–just put it down! You are not allowed to edit for feasibility or possibility in dreamstorming. When you let your brain and mind free, it’s amazing what ideas will come out. Ready? Go!
See her complete article below – it’s a great read. http://www.scienceofpeople.com/2015/06/the-ultimate-guide-to-creating-your-bucket-list/
Sometimes the responsibilities of daily life gets in the way of experiencing new things or even thinking about what we really want to do in life.
Creating a Bucket List will focus your interests, provide structure and motivate you to step out of the box. It can expand your mind to new possibilities and make your dreams become a reality. Who wouldn’t want that? And when we have our wishes written down, to refer to regularly, those dreams become more tangible. Sometimes, when goals are not recorded and easily accessible we tend to forget about them and in turn are not proactive.
My Own List
After studying the art of bucket list making, I began drafting my own list, which still is very much a work in progress, because I have still not completed STEP 1! But I thought I’d jot down at least a list of the general areas I’d like to explore:
- Read more
- Travel more
- Learn to scuba dive
- Take ballroom dance lessons
- Get into the best shape of my life
- Buy a cottage or a house on the water
Do you have a bucket list? What is on yours?
In the inspiring words of Shia Leboeuf, just do it ! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZXsQAXx_ao0
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