The Dating GAME

We live in an age where everything is available to us at our fingertips. New shoes – Express delivery they will be here in two days, order your books, movies, clothes, and your mate. All with the swipe of your finger, or click of your mouse. Ok, obviously we don’t actually order our mate (I am not here to talk about mail order partners) but I am here to talk about the ever-changing world of dating.

If you are reading this at home happily married, or if you have been off of the market for over five years know this; the game has changed.

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Has it changed for the better, or for the worse? Well, that all depends on the perspective.

The good: It is now much easier to find a suitable partner. If you lead a lifestyle that does not allow you to go out and engage with strangers on a regular basis, online dating can be great. I say CAN BE because this leads me to the bad.

The bad: The quantity is there, but what about QUALITY? Yes, there are some fantastic people waiting to be discovered online, but to get them requires a whole heck of a lot of patience and time. and this is where the bad may start to overshadow the good.

The ugly:  We have become so disposable. You are just a swipe away from finding someone new.  Having this luxury to connect with so many people at once has desensitized  us. There is always someone ahead, behind, hell maybe even beside you. 

SO, here I am. Ready to share the good, the bad, and the ugly. Hopefully, at the end of this experiment I can conclude as to whether online dating is a waste of time, or maybe, just maybe I will walk away encouraging all of the single ladies and men out there to give it a try. 

Stay tuned.

-K

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3 thoughts on “The Dating GAME

  1. I love this. The good, the bad, and the ugly are very accurate ways of describing the online dating world. As someone who has tried it out and has many failed attempts I feel like I should be giving up, but I still believe there is someone out there, that diamond in the rough that I will find. Thank you for talking about something that used to be taboo to discuss.

  2. This is so true.

    A number of years ago my wife and I went through a melt down. She left to pursue her passion, not another partner, but to be educated full-time. Even thought we continued to see each other, the disconnect remained, we maintained the intimacy.

    She then went abroad for 7 months.

    I used the online dating process to find two women who were interested in meeting and subsequently dating. She choose not to date. The circumstances around that led up to that period of time in our relationship are complex and profound.

    The online dating world I found is rife with the good, the bad and the ugly just as you state.

    The end result, my wife returned and told me when she was abroad she had made a mistake and should not have left. Where as during the dating process, I had this feeling in the back of my gut that told me all things are not as they seem, even though both the women I dated would have jumped at the opportunity to marry me.

    From personal experience, I realized the woman I had met and married many years ago was the one for me and the online dating game is just that “a game”. She return from her trip, we reconnected and remain committed to each other today, our love continues to be as strong as ever.

    As you describe “The good, the bad, and the ugly are very accurate ways of describing the online dating world.”

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts, looking forward to your update.

  3. This is such an interesting insight for me.

    I have been married for 28 years and plan to stay that way for at least another 28 years.

    While I am not dating or thinking of dating … that just seems like so much work … those around me are completely immersed in that world. Recently, my closest friend and her husband divorced. She is now a proud member of the online dating world.

    I will confess, this is a complete mystery to me! The stories she tells and things she’s experienced truly come as advertised …. good, bad and ugly. As a friend and confidant it is an eye opener for me. Wow. Just wow.

    The world is changing. Technology is changing. People do not change. At the very core of it all we are still the same. There have always been good and bad and ugly … it’s just so much more accessible and faster.

    As the old country song goes … are we “looking for love in all the wrong places”? No. I don’t think so. It’s just a new place. Here’s to everyone looking for love … I think online could be the right place …

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