I am sure we can all say we have been guilty of this at one time or another…the dreaded Vaguebooking…which believe it or not is an actual thing! You may not know exactly what it is, but I am pretty sure you have seen one, and perhaps even posted your own.
Urban Dictionary defines it as:
An intentionally vague Facebook Status update, that prompts friends to ask what’s going or, or is possibly a cry for help.
Mary is: “wondering if it is all worth it”.
Long before social media came to be, most people wrote their innermost thoughts and secrets in a “Dear Diary” format, and these musing were never meant for public consumption, much less meant to spark an ongoing plea from your friends to discuss what your thoughts might mean. Writing “Dear Diary, Why do I bother” was meant for your eyes only and folks were not forced to speculate and draw their own conclusions…nor were you expecting Dear Diary to have the answer.
These days people have fallen into the passive-aggressive trap of posting a few words meant to elicit an outpouring of love and support from friends not to mention the curiosity and attention from said friends. These status usually allude to a life turmoil, crisis, or emotional distress yet never give details.
But why Vaguebook? According to Arik Beremzon:
“It’s a form of attention seeking behavior combined with “first world problems”. By being vague, an individual can elicit a response of concern from their surroundings that would normally be considered as overreacting.”
So posting “Regret is a terrible thing” may lead people to jump to conclusions and ask you if you are okay, offering words of encouragement and offers to be that shoulder to lean on, assuming that life has handed you a horrible blow….when really you are referring to that double Big Mac Combo you had after dinner which even included a Super sized fries!
Initially any good friend would see a Vaguebook post and ask “what is wrong hon”, or a “???” or even just a ” 😦 “, But this status is rarely followed by any insight or clarification and often causes a great deal of discontent. I mean there is nothing i hate more than one someone says “I have to tell you something” and then says “never mind!” as if you won’t spend the next few hours if not days wondering what they were going to say!
Vaguebooking goes one step further because you fell into the trap and actually set yourself up for the “never mind” that is bound to follow. It has become the modern day “Boy who cried Wolf”…. and we all know what happened to him….