How Social Media Made Me a Feminist COM011 Post 1

Feminsim. Just the word evokes visions of militant hairy women shouting. It is such a polarizing word. Some people think feminism means more rights for women than men. I’m not sure where they got the idea, but it is extremely harmful to everyone. I will not take up this space complaining about the MRA, however. I don’t have the time it would take for me to rant. Instead, I want to share my journey to feminism in hopes those who stereotype it will relate and open their minds.

I was never a feminist. For years I would not describe myself as one and thought all of them were crazy feminazis. I wanted to be the “cool girl”, I pretended to be the “cool girl”. The “cool girl” is not a feminist. She is not there for women, she is all about serving men. Then something started to happen, I aged a bit. I got tired of pretending. I got tired of shoving down my feelings and acting like I didn’t care. Once I started to shed that skin, I started to see all the ways in which society hurt women. From rape culture to the wage gap. I started to read articles and books about feminism and I woke up. The myth about society’s visions of feminism is that it’s not just for women. Feminism is good for everyone.

Men; have you ever been told to “man up” or “grow a pair”? Have you ben mocked for feeling or being interested in anything traditionally seen as feminine? That’s why you need feminism too. Men should be able to openly express themselves without ridicule. Also, they don’t deserve to be put in a box and told how to act. If women everywhere are educated and empowered, all the burden of being a provider does not fall on men’s shoulders. We can share it. When women are equal to men, we share all of life’s burdens equally, that only benefits society as a whole.

What’s funny is that for a world that loves to use up resources, so many places ignore their greatest one; women. Many studies show that when a country begins to educate and empower it’s women, the entire society benefits. Half the population of so many places are not being constructive members of the society because the hyper patriarchal culture keeps them in the home instead of in the workforce. If every man in the world were a feminist, believed in women being equal, who knows what kind of world we could be living in now.

My journey to feminism was brought on largely by Social Media. It started with #everydaysexism on Twitter. I watched the TED talk after. Then another documentary. Then I was lead to read Simone de Beauvoir’s work, then Gloria Steinem. The deeper I got, the more I realized the ways misogyny had impacted my life. How many times I had been groped in a bar and accepted it because society told me my body was not mine. It opened me up to seeing how women are treated in countries like Saudi Arabia, and informed me about the women being blamed for their own rapes in Sri Lanka. I hope Social Media will create an entire generation of strong, feminist men and women as it did for me.

Women’s rights are human rights. No one loses out with gender equality, and we should all fight for it.

5 thoughts on “How Social Media Made Me a Feminist COM011 Post 1

  1. I told both my step-daughters it’s a man’s world out here and you better learn that now. Get by on your worth not the ability to have children and don’t expect a guy to keep you. I agree that women still and won’t for some time get an even share. My wife works in a male dominated industry and she sees her ability to advance limited because of her gender. But she is good for a photo-op. I keep telling her it’s politics and play it right you will get ahead. Sad but true.

  2. I worry about young women rejecting feminism due to a lack of history and understanding about what’s going on in the world. I’m so glad you “woke up” to use your words. There are many women in their 50s, 60s and beyond who worked very hard for women’s rights in years past. We made great advances by marching up and down streets and supporting women’s health clinics at a time when our reproductive freedoms were still severely restricted. To see all that work thrown away or misunderstood is akin to watching your child held back from success. Thank you for your interesting article – I’m going to check out #everydayfeminism on Twitter right now.

  3. Interesting post. I was wondering if you have considered the negative impact Social Media has had on the feminist movement

    For example, the entire idea of burning your bra back in the 1960s was symbolic of being independent of men…the freedom to be natural. While most woman did not actually burn their bras it was supported and encouraged as a endorsement of the wanted changes to Women’s Rights at the time.

    In today’s Social Media one need only to google #BurnYourBra to realize that the notion does not hold the same meaning as it once did. What could have been a perfect hashtag for a movement that is now more powerful and wide spread than ever has become a mantra for scantily clad woman posting pictures of themselves in provocative positions that would have Gloria Steinem seeing red!

    One step forward and two steps back it would seem!

  4. I grew a tomboy, country girl and was always and still am accused of not acting like a girl/women. Still to this day my husband and friends seem to have to remind me that I am indeed a girl…not a boy! Does this mean that I am a Feminist? My father always took my brother to the hunt camp or to cut wood which made me fight more to do what the boys were doing. To this day, I still am independent and do not want a man looking after me. I work in a man’s world and work hard to compete to show a women can do this job just as good. I never realized I was a Feminist until I read your blog.

    • That is truly the best comment I could ask for. I feel like feminism is a dirty word, but all it means is that you believe women and men should have all the same rights and freedoms under law and in society.

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